25 Fun & Free/Cheap Things To Do With Your Friends and/or Lovers

ask-pauli-amorous:

Thank you all for following! With 100 followers, here’s the celebratory post:

  1. Watch a sunset from the roof.
  2. Have a private poetry reading.
  3. Play strip tag. (It’s like tag, except you have to strip something when you’re tagged. When you’re completely naked, you join the person/people doing the tagging until everybody’s naked. You can play that folks are “safe” while stripping if you so choose.)
  4. Have a tea party.
  5. Massage chain!
  6. Private dance party in the kitchen.
  7. Climb a mountain together.
  8. Draw/paint each other.
  9. Make up songs and rhymes about each other or your relationship.
  10. Go ice blocking. (Get a block of ice or freeze one yourself, cover the top with a towel, and ride it down a grassy hill.)
  11. Sexy exception challenge. (Choose something small that you usually really enjoy in bed with each other - such as kissing or a particular type of caress - then make that thing out of bounds.)
  12. Use free online resources to study a language together.
  13. Check with local schools and colleges to find out when any free/cheap concerts/performances will be happening, and pick one.
  14. Co-meditation.
  15. Work together to cover a sand box, beach, or other dirt-filled area with geometric patterns.
  16. Go dumpster driving for cardboard and build a boat together, then try it out in a lake or pool.
  17. Build and use a cuddle fort.
  18. Naked charades.
  19. Take a walking tour of the nearest large city. (You can often get information about these through the city’s Chamber of Commerce or equivalent entity.)
  20. Go geocacheing together if one of you has a smart phone. If not, create a low-tech version of the game for yourselves.
  21. Choose a DIY furniture project and go to garage sales and thrift stores to find the things to build it.
  22. Dig out the cans and boxes that got pushed to the back of the cupboard, throw out anything expired, and concoct a new dinner creation from whatever is left.
  23. Take board games to the park or a local coffee shop.
  24. Go on a long bike ride together.
  25. Use highlighters to cover each other in art to be revealed by a black light.

ask-pauli-amorous asked:

I wanted to reblog that venn diagram post, but when I tried, your image disappeared. Would you mind posting your diagram as its own post so that I can reblog it? Thank you for illustrating that sexual orientation and romantic orientation are two different things. Also, if it's not too much trouble, would you mind explaining what "relationship orientation" is? Thanks so much!

Damselflier Answer:

Sure thing! I’ll do that as soon as I finish answering this. Thanks for the appreciation! =)

"Relationship Orientation" is a blanket term for that drive which brings people to be monogmaous, polyamorous, cheaters, abstain from relationships altogether, or what have you. It’s not the same as a person’s choices, just as a person can choose to have straight sex but have (for example) an asexual or homosexual sexual orientation. Polyamorous people who force themselves to be in monogamous relationships would therefore still fall under "polyamorous" in terms of relationship orientation.

Newsflash: removing the romantic aspect of my friendship with my only local romantic partner is not the same thing as “suddenly being single.” I’m not a piece of meat. Well I mean, I am technically made up primarily of meat, but I’m not here to be tossed about by dogs who fight over who gets to consume me.

I thought I escaped the worst of monogamy but it came back to bite me, and not in the fun way.

At least they’re making it really easy to know I’m not interested in them.

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When people are douche-bags to me, I get angry because they force me to be mean to them. I don’t want to tell people to fuck off. In fact, this is the first time I have ever used that phrase. I’m double angry - once for the things he called me, and once for the things I had to say to him to defend myself. I’ve read lots of stories from angry people on Tumblr who deal with this regularly. Now I understand where they’re coming from.

When people are douche-bags to me, I get angry because they force me to be mean to them. I don’t want to tell people to fuck off. In fact, this is the first time I have ever used that phrase. I’m double angry - once for the things he called me, and once for the things I had to say to him to defend myself. I’ve read lots of stories from angry people on Tumblr who deal with this regularly. Now I understand where they’re coming from.

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